Words are lifegiving or deathtaking. Words can hurt, encourage, heal, destroy. These are differences that are not easily tamed. To think about that you have life and death in your tounge is pretty scary. You can encourage a person to the degreee that he will not be suicidal anymore but you can also put a person so down, by just saying the wrong words, to kill himself. A mother can tell her child so many bad things that eventually that child will believe the words and act upon them and become depressed or down in life because of it or she can encourage her child so much that she will be the best person there is to be. It's all about what we put into peoples lives. Yes, we have been brought up in different ways and are sometimes results of what people might have told us, but we have a choice to act on it or not. We can choose to allow these voices to win or not.
If we are rooted in the Word, read the Bible daily, meditate on scriptures, we can overcome those voices that are constantly ringing in our ears. "Renew your mind every day" it says in the Bible. There is a reason for that. The battle of who we are is in our minds. That is where we need to get victory over the lies that we hear.
It is very important to know that we have life and death in our tounge. With it we can curse or we can bless. We have to choose to give life.